First Comes Love

I am still awe-struck by the impact of young love.

In a good way. Even at my age.

Recently, my nephew and his girlfriend got engaged. I have never met the bride-to-be, but have heard exceptional things about her. I must say, if she is as kind, and good-natured as my nephew, they will have many happy years between them.

Gazing at the young couples’ engagement photos brought a lump to my throat. Possibly because I am a hopeless romantic, but also, there is something so tender and pure about young love.

I couldn’t help but to think back to a time in my own history when I was young and in love, with my whole life ahead of me. The possiblities were endless.

Looking back 17 years, if my 43- year old self could have a conversation with my 26- year old former self, this is what I would tell the young bride-to-be.

• If you can’t say it or do it in front of your spouse, it probably shouldn’t be said or done. 
• Take nothing for granted. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. Live for TODAY.  
• Do kind things for your spouse,  just because. Don’t keep score. It doesn’t matter.
• When you disagree, stop and recognize, it’s perfectly ACCEPTABLE not to agree 100% of the time on 100% of the issues. There doesn’t have to be a winner and a loser. And there is no right way or wrong way of explaining the origin of Santa Klaus.
• Nothing ever stays the same. Learn to embrace change, as it will come whether you’re ready for it or not.
• Time-outs are not only acceptable, but often-times a neccessity.
• Leave name calling to the playground bullies. If you aren’t feeling particularly pleasant, refer to above.
• You don’t have to do/like everything your spouse does/likes. You just need to be supportive. Sexy Hubby doesn’t love blogging, and I don’t love hunting. Enjoyment of hobbies is not mutually exclusive.  
• Go ahead, use the “good” towels, the “good” pillows and the “good” china. Don’t save anything for a special occasion - EVERYDAY is a special occassion. (And don’t get your panties in a wad when Sexy Hubby accidently sleeps/drools on the “good” pillow. It can be washed.)
• There will be times of sickness and health, for richer or poorer, good times and bad. What doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger.
• It’s the little moments that make the biggest impact. And they’re all little moments.
• A little self-deprication goes a L O N G way.

Here’s a look a young love.

Isn’t it grand?

Seriously, makes me want to cry.

In a good way.

Congratulations Cole and Mattie!

Cheers to many years of wedded bliss.